Sometimes it’s difficult

To tell if you are being the bad friend, the one who is being inflexible, the one who is making the jokes at the expense of the other person.

Other times it isn’t so difficult.

Today isn’t one of those other times.  Today’s theme might be inflexibility.  Actually, this week’s theme might be inflexibility.  I’m trying to be subtle here, so as not to offend friends who either are or aren’t reading.  To be honest, I doubt the friends who spurred this post even care to read my blog.

I really do doubt it.

But just in case I’m going to try to be vague.

Sometimes, when you are a busy person, and you’d like to see a friend who is in the vicinity, you both have to make sacrifices.  Maybe it’s doing something that you wouldn’t quite do normally.  Maybe it’s going somewhere to eat that you wouldn’t usually go.  Maybe it’s going out when you don’t want to go out.  Or maybe it’s going somewhere to eat, that you can go anytime.

Either way, sometimes, both people need to be flexible.  Sometimes, everyone involved  needs to actually sit down and figure out what exactly everyone wants, figure out exactly why it’s difficult to do that.

You can’t just throw an inflexible agenda out and expect to maintain relationships.  It’s actually quite impossible to do that.  As frustrating as it is, it’s quite impossible.

Right now I’m pissed off, because I’ve tried to be very flexible, offering a friend multiple opportunities to hang out, multiple ways to see each other.  Unfortunately I’ve been met with nothing but “well, we’re actually going to be doing this instead”.  I’ve called, sent text messages, multiple times.  The only thing I haven’t done is email.  I’ve put effort in on my side, but if it isn’t going to be matched, then I can’t really solve that problem.

Sometimes it’s difficult…